Love the Lulls

A lesson I've been coming to appreciate the past few weeks is one I think people can benefit from learning too. It goes across the board, so I'm not just talking about career-wise, but life-wise as well...

Have patience, i.e. slow ya damn roll.

Patience is one thing our society majorly lacks. Our internet isn't fast enough. The traffic light is taking forever to change. Our server is taking too long with our food. The car in front of us is driving too slow. Can it just please be summer now?

The art of relaxing is a beautiful thing, so it's a shame no one knows how to do it anymore. Everyone is in such a hurry all the time that they don't realize that that's no way to live life: rushed. We're so caught up in getting to where we want to go that we forget where we are in the present. And then people wonder why they're miserable once they finally get what they want after they've missed out on so much. Smh.

As a budding freelancer, I'm aware of the fact that it may take a while to get to where I want to be. I'm in the process of trying to build a portfolio, but since my last job ended, there's been a lag between my next one. I've had potential clients reach out to me, and we've been negotiating rates and all that noise, but it's still a lot of talking and not much doing yet. That's okay. At least there are opportunities available to me and that's what matters, so I'm content with doing "nothing" in the meantime. As long as the future looks promising, homegirl's happy.

With the downtime, I'm able to appreciate the process, something that's taken for granted when people are constantly in a hurry. I designed myself some business cards. I'm able to write in my blog. I'm reading a lot. I'm going to freakin' California this week! I wouldn't have time or the will for all that if I was scrambling around, frantic and worried as to why my "big break" hasn't happened yet.

Nothing miraculous happens overnight, especially success. It's an ongoing journey that we tend to overlook because we're so consumed by the idea of "making it." Enjoy the lulls and take advantage of them.

Let's face it, our generation is never going to be able to retire, so don't take any break you have along the way for granted. Go somewhere. See old friends. Pick up a damn book. Do whatever you want to do because you can! And don't feel guilty about it either. There's a reason why we were read "The Tortoise and the Hare" growing up. Now we just need to put it into practice.

So stop asking where your food is and enjoy the company of the person you're dining with. You wouldn't want the chef to rush you out a shitty meal, would you? Let him have his time to make you something he knows you'll enjoy. Stop begging for summer in the winter. Savor your hot chocolate in front of the fireplace while wearing a hoodie and sweatpants. Stop whining that the red light is too long and turn up the radio. Learn to be calm, to be patient, and to embrace the lulls. What's the rush, anyway?

Always listen to your mother. (Fun fact: My mom left this note for me on my sink as I was preparing to leave for Thailand and I've kept it ever since. Also, "koukla" is Greek for "babydoll." You can stop aweing now.)

Always listen to your mother.

(Fun fact: My mom left this note for me on my sink as I was preparing to leave for Thailand and I've kept it ever since. Also, "koukla" is Greek for "babydoll." You can stop aweing now.)